When Repeating the Same Conflict Slowly Erodes an Otherwise Strong Relationship

A focused, six-week process for thoughtful couples who want change — not more discussion.

You are used to figuring things out.
In your work and your life, understanding leads to movement.

But in your relationship, certain conversations still go off course — not from lack of care or intelligence, but because emotion outruns intention when it matters most. Over time, these moments accumulate.
What begins as a familiar disagreement slowly erodes ease, trust, and goodwill — even in relationships that are otherwise strong.

I’ve spent decades working with couples at precisely these moments, when emotional pressure overwhelms good intention and capable people find themselves repeating outcomes they never actually choose.

Insight matters.
But under emotional pressure, insight alone rarely holds.

Change happens inside live interaction — at the moments when defensiveness appears, reactions harden, or a familiar argument begins to take shape. Without ways to recognize and redirect those moments in real time, even very capable couples repeat the same conflicts for years.

Left unchanged, these patterns rarely resolve on their own. They don’t explode — they become the background climate of the relationship.